No one wants to be known as a quitter, right? Well, I do and I will tell you why.

When I was growing up and throughout my life, I was taught not to quit and not to give up—keep fighting for it! As a young immigrant in this wonderful country I had to get creative in order to be able to communicate and succeed in life. I actually crack up at myself as I think back at the English words that I made up because I didn’t know the translation for it. I had to study double the time as others and really go the extra mile in order to make the grade. As an adult, I still fight with the same tenacity for the things that I want to accomplish. However, I’ve gained the wisdom to see that not every fight is in my best interest to fight.

Allow me to explain:

Some days, life throws you some very interesting curve balls that almost knock you off your feet. You wonder how you even got to this fork in the road in your life. Some decisions seem black and white and easy to make; they measure up with your values and your beliefs — slam dunk right? However, other decisions are a bit grey and not so easy. It is in these that I cling to God and seek his face as I move forward in what I believe that He is telling me to do. And sometimes, that’s to throw in the towel.

In the past, there were things that I have needed to “quit,” and therefore, I consider myself a quitter — and by the way I am okay with that!

You see, I have come to realize that there is wisdom in knowing when a season has ended in order to make a way to move forward in the new one.

I have had to walk away from relationships and business ventures that no longer brought me joy or peace. And recently, I am getting ready to walk away from the house that I love. After dragging my feet for over year, I have moved forward in putting our home on the market for a home that better suits our family.

However, as I worked through the emotional process of listing my house, I noticed that there were other things that I was also quitting — and for good reasons. Here are some examples of things that we all should quit:

  1. Judging yourself for seeing and believing things differently than the world around you sees it.
  2. Staying connected to projects or initiatives that no longer fit your life or season.
  3. Feeling guilty for saying “no” to folks that want to control your life and mind. Saying no to good things opens up your availability to say yes to great things!
  4. Judging yourself for not being in your career or business where others are at this time. Your pace is fine for you and your current situation. To me, as long as I am moving forward my speed is not the priority.
  5. Caring so much what others think about you and your decisions—focus more on what God thinks of you and your choices; after all you are allowing Him to direct your steps.
  6. Worrying about how small your inner circle of friends is and being okay with quality rather than quantity.

You see, I am a quitter, and in quitting these things, I have found peace in becoming the woman God wants me to be.

You can be a quitter and be at peace too! Look to spend some time alone with God for him to clearly speak into your life and tell you what to continue to pursue and what you need to let go. Some things have an expiration date on them for a reason; they weren’t meant to last a lifetime. And other things you do are for eternity. Know the difference and be at peace with your decision, God has an amazing plan for your life!

Quit the good for the better.

Are you trying to do everything, be everything and succeed at it all? What can you put aside and quit so that you can do what you are called to do better?

Silvia Arvelo

Silvia is a life breakthrough coach, human resources professional, author and speaker. However, her most rewarding assignment is being a wife of 28 years and a mom to her 3 daughters. Silvia is the president and founder of Women’s Empowerment Services. Her mission is to create an environment where women are empowered to fulfill their unique purpose.

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